One thing we knew early on in our children's life, we needed to get out of the city in order for them to learn how to work, not be spoiled and to learn to live simply. We knew that living on one income was going to get more difficult as the children grew and saw all their friends having lots of extra curricular activities that cost a lot of money and create this whirl wind life where meals are eaten on the run, the miles on the car add up quickly and home is the place where you pick up your schedule. We knew that as parents we were going to have to make some major changes and one of those changes was to find work in the country, buying a house in the country is often much cheaper so you can either pay cash or have a small mortgage. We paid cash for our house in the mountains of Oregon. We lived so far from town that there were no short trips for whatever whim I had. It was an adventure to go to town !
You don't have to live in the country though to live on one income, its just for us, we knew there would be more for the children to do without becoming bored. We had them raise goats, sheep, care for their pony, help in the garden, learn to build forts and drive a buggy. They had 4-H and church to make friends. No one even knew about fashion or the latest music, they were too busy to even notice. School was at home and full of adventure and excitement.
When the children were small, we didn't use baby sitters, we stayed home. We had quiet time together after the children went to bed. And living on the farm, makes children want to go to bed at night, they are tired from playing hard and working hard.
Its just a choice, that is all it is. Unless you are a one parent family, you can if you want, make it on one income. I quit work the day the Doctor told me I was expecting Melissa. Emery made almost nothing working as a janitor in a hospital, but we made it. Sure there were times I didn't have 2 nickles in my purse and my mother, God rest her soul was such a kind woman, she would stop by with a bag of food and say, "oh these were two for the price of one at the store so you take the extra one." We would have made it without that help but meals would have been a bit less interesting. Now we get to do the same for our children when they need it. What a joy it is.