Tuesday, December 30, 2008

The Down Side of Blogging

There are always a few of them around, you know the snippy ones in Blogland that look for something nasty to say, a snide remark, always one of two things, anonymous or no public profile. Always taking the role of a bully. It is as if they are lying in wait to find something to pick at. Had one today....brings out the very worst in you. For a moment you react to them in like manner, then you sit back and think about what compels a person to have such behaviors and then you start to feel nothing but pity for them. I am very frank with my readers about my imperfections and the many steps I am taking on this journey called life. There are many forks in the road and I check a few new roads out now and again for which I am not embarrassed, but grateful for the lessons learned with each step.
I can't figure out why these folks read blogs that they take issue with. The mystery of life.
All I can say is that for me, LIFE IS GOOD ! My prayers are that peace be the strongest desire in all our hearts, my own included of course.

a few days ago there was a black vulture sitting in our tree....

12 comments:

Dana and Daisy said...

I've found blogland to be much nicer than some of the public forums I used to partake in.

But there is always a chance when you speak your beliefs that someone will challenge you, and not always in the nicest ways. I'm sorry this has happened to you.

I'm feeling pretty negative lately and have to really watch my tongue. That goes for my virtual tongue too!

christine said...

Perhaps best put by Johann Wolfang von Goethe.....

"The coward only threatens when he is safe."


best wishes,
christine

Jessie said...

I tend to beat them at their own game by responding constructively like you have. They never answer back. Im convinced that they're not so much anonymous as they are a regular commenter who doesnt want to own up to what they're saying so they click the anonymous option.

Linda said...

Patty, I found it very hard to break free of my religious tradition in order to explore. It's often makes other members of the group feel threatened, and they in turn shame you into guilt for stepping outside the boundaries they've drawn.

Texas can be a tough place to live for people who don't fit inside their religious box. I feel comfortable living in Oregon where people are not so rigid about religious beliefs.

I love Texas, was born there, and lived 62 years of my life there but it's a tough environment for the curious.

Hang tough, and by all means follow your curiosity.

Rebecca said...

I had a lady follow me around for a year. I'd open a new blog to get away from her and she would find me in a matter of days. It was almost scary. I gave up running from her and just ignored her. If she gave a nice comment I posted it. If she got wicked I'd delete it. She still reads my blog but never has anything to say anymore. I guess since I didn't fight back it took all the fun out of it. LOL

I hope you don't have to deal with it all to much. Maybe your anonymous will just go away.

Patty said...

Linda you are so right ! I do miss Oregon for that reason. Its o.k. to look at things outside the box there. California was o.k. that way too and it was pretty good growing up in Boston.

Patty said...

Jessie, I believe you are right there. Sometimes you can actually recognize the writing style : )

Kim said...

Being a woman of the Word as you are, I think your best defense is treating them with kindness and also remembering to pray for those who mistreat you. It's hard to do but I think it changes us.
Kim

Patty said...

Have been praying for this person from the get go Kim

TJ said...

It is unfortunate that people feel the need to leave nasty comments. My friend's blog has had a similar problem. A very graphic, nasty comment left anonymously. Like you, her answer is to pray. She has many of us praying for that person, and another that leaves strange comments.

I for some reason have been immune so far, with only 1 negative comment ever.

wannaquilt1 said...

I can't imagine your blog ever causing someone to comment negatively - but it takes all kinds, I guess. I'm so thankful that you rise above the negatives and continue to blog - as I've said before, your pictures always brighten my day.

Beth in PA

Magdalena said...

I haven't had a lot of negative comment on my blog yet. I won't take anonymous comments, anyway. My problem was that someone who knew us decided to take issue with us to drive us out of "his" church, and used my blog to harass us. I am a Plain-spoken, Plain-living Anglican priest; he didn't like some the things I had to say. The end result was that he left the church, which I believe was a great relief for everyone involved.

God bless your work! And I love the beautiful photos.