Wednesday, January 17, 2007
The Good Old Days, we threw out the baby with the bath water.
The last few days I have felt a bit "gun shy" to write much on the blog. I am not a fan of negetivity as I have said before. But here I go and yes, its my thoughts about what we have lost from the good old days.
In the good old days, people had restraint, manners and a sense of kindness that is missing in so many circles today. We hear about the need to "express ourselves", to "say what we think", to "let it all out". But, it's no secret that this has led to some not so pleasant working conditions for people, for road rage, for untamed emotions that have left many feeling hurt and for many depressed. It never seems we have the need to express ourselves in a balance and say a whole rant of wonderful things about a person, or how much we admire them etc. Our desire to express ourselves seems to only include the negative . Maybe this is an indicator of our level of peace and happiness deep within ourselves.
I don't personally think we need to say every ugly, confrontational thought we have. Not sure what it accomplishes. Since I believe in the Bible I like that verse in Philippians 4 verse 8 that speaks of something very positive, "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things."
It's no secret that our society has grown more violent, less tolerant of others opinions and certainly less happy. Its not uncommon to have people come up to another and say things like, "you're ugly", "you are stupid" "I don't like you" . I think there is even a song about, " I think you ugly" or something like that.
Maybe it makes someone feel "good" to say that, but it sure doesn't feel good to hear it. Its an incredibly selfish way to live, to always say what you think, regardless of how much it hurts another.
Remember hearing, "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" ? I have heard more, read more, seen more on unpleasantness in work places in the past decade than in my entire life. It seems restraint has just gone out the door. Restraint in our words, in our anger on the road, in our spending, in our "wants" and on and on.
There are some things from the good old days I wish we could hold dear, like kindness, ethics, honor, restraint, working together for a common goal and the ability to be motivated by the greater good.
If with all this "express yourself" mentality we had become kinder, less violent, less self centered, less angry, less depressed, more happy, better marriages, more well adjusted children throughout society, then we could say this concept was working. But since we have become a people of watching, hearing and saying so many negatives, we have become a nation that is less happy. Propriety is a word rarely used. Contentment, an ideal nearly forgotten.
Those in the world we have admired the most, such as Mother Teresa, The Dalai Lama, and so on, are known and loved for their kind words to others.
A UFO knitted afghan that was taken out this week and worked on
Tuk Tuk, not so sure he likes this snow stuff
an ice covered wood pile
Soft music, the gentle kind of music that makes you feel content with life... the view from the window as I sit and spin at the wheel makes ...