Morning Time
Fog rolled around our land this morning reminding me of the smoke off the incense I burn. You could see this fog tumble and roll. Its not 8 a.m. and I have had my mile run, drank my morning cup of warm water with the juice of a lemon in it. Made breakfast of cream of buckwheat for Emery and I. Read my poster that cites the ABC's to achieve your dreams. Somehow this morning I got stuck on S.... Stop procrastinating and then on T... Take control of your own destiny. Take control, that sort of made me think about being a people pleaser, which really puts everyone else in the drivers seat. We are not taking control of our own destiny, we change and mutate to try and make everyone else happy, in the mean time we sort of loose what might be our purpose. We can let others take the helm and miss what our true destiny is meant to be.
I have watched myself carefully lately and its impossible to keep everyone happy, everyone interested in what you are doing. If we go through life living with compassion without personal agenda or without the need for accolades, than that is all we need to be worried about. Compassion is never without love, love is compassion on the deepest level. It doesn't brag, it doesn't care if its seen or unseen by the masses and it sees the needs of others as being equal or greater than our own. People pleasing is self centered. It's all about how we are being perceived, rather than making other folks life better. It's about approval and acceptance. Compassion is not a part of it. I need to remind myself of that all the time. I start to write something for the blog that I feel deeply about and then I think, 'oh dear, the fundamentalists that read the blog will be so offended by my honesty and write me off or send me an email " so I rethink how to say it and realize that the free thinkers will think I have bitten the bullet and become a narrow minded judgmental person and never come back again. So you see, it won't work to people please. Being your "authentic you" can't be avoided forever, you will go nuts ! Each one of us has a reason for being here on earth, and doubtful our purpose has much to do with what we eat or what our pantry looks like, or how to clean a toilet properly. We all have far more wisdom given to us to share than that. Those might be important aspects of our lives, but not defining who we are. If all you taught your children was how to clean a house, they would not be real balanced, there is so much more to learn. We should work on the things about us that rule us, control us, remove from us the ability to operate as we were designed. Don't just say, "I am fat and out of shape and my health is compromised" and accept it as fate, work on it, change it, so you can operate as God intended. How can you live the life designed for you if you give the power to food ? Maybe someone else might say, " I have OCD" instead it might be more beneficial to say, "I struggle with OCD and want to be free from it" and then work on it. Change it, so you too can be free to be who God wants you to be, complete your purpose. Anger controls people, makes them behave in a way that rules them, dictates them and turns loved ones, strangers, store clerks, waitresses and the like, away with disgust, especially if they see the angry one hop into a car with a bumper sticker that says, "God loves you and so do I" ! Don't just accept it as a part of you, work on it...life is work in progress and we need to be aware of what is the driving force of our actions.
I have watched myself carefully lately and its impossible to keep everyone happy, everyone interested in what you are doing. If we go through life living with compassion without personal agenda or without the need for accolades, than that is all we need to be worried about. Compassion is never without love, love is compassion on the deepest level. It doesn't brag, it doesn't care if its seen or unseen by the masses and it sees the needs of others as being equal or greater than our own. People pleasing is self centered. It's all about how we are being perceived, rather than making other folks life better. It's about approval and acceptance. Compassion is not a part of it. I need to remind myself of that all the time. I start to write something for the blog that I feel deeply about and then I think, 'oh dear, the fundamentalists that read the blog will be so offended by my honesty and write me off or send me an email " so I rethink how to say it and realize that the free thinkers will think I have bitten the bullet and become a narrow minded judgmental person and never come back again. So you see, it won't work to people please. Being your "authentic you" can't be avoided forever, you will go nuts ! Each one of us has a reason for being here on earth, and doubtful our purpose has much to do with what we eat or what our pantry looks like, or how to clean a toilet properly. We all have far more wisdom given to us to share than that. Those might be important aspects of our lives, but not defining who we are. If all you taught your children was how to clean a house, they would not be real balanced, there is so much more to learn. We should work on the things about us that rule us, control us, remove from us the ability to operate as we were designed. Don't just say, "I am fat and out of shape and my health is compromised" and accept it as fate, work on it, change it, so you can operate as God intended. How can you live the life designed for you if you give the power to food ? Maybe someone else might say, " I have OCD" instead it might be more beneficial to say, "I struggle with OCD and want to be free from it" and then work on it. Change it, so you too can be free to be who God wants you to be, complete your purpose. Anger controls people, makes them behave in a way that rules them, dictates them and turns loved ones, strangers, store clerks, waitresses and the like, away with disgust, especially if they see the angry one hop into a car with a bumper sticker that says, "God loves you and so do I" ! Don't just accept it as a part of you, work on it...life is work in progress and we need to be aware of what is the driving force of our actions.
Comments
Would you likewise advise someone with bipolar disorder, or someone who suffers from schizophrenia to just "work on it. Change it?" Mental illness doesn't work that way.
Your post is mostly thoughful, and you do offer person insight, but as someone who has close relationships with several people with varied mental illnesses for many years (through many, many therapies), it sets me on edge to hear or read "just change it." If they could, oh man, they would. It's not always that simple.
There are many times in the medical profession when one text book does not agree with another. One study shows a complete different outcome than another. I could spend the day listing medical sites, psych book after psych book, that would disagree with your definition, unless there are other issues of a chemical nature prompting behaviors. But, to no point. There are certainly levels of the disorder, some complete with a level of psychosis that can trigger certain behaviors.
Carrie