I Have Been Struggling With This

Last week I had a conversation with a man that has his words bothering me big time. I think I may just pop if I don't write about it.
By chance I was talking to someone about a young lady we both knew. Seems this girl has gotten pregnant, and is marrying the father. She is probably 22 or 23 now.
This "devout Christian" man with whom I was speaking said. "we were invited to the wedding but we sent a letter saying, "we would not attend". He explained it this way to me, "its bad enough she is pregnant but to marry the father is just another bad choice." I assumed the guy (father to be) must be a jerk or something, but no that is not the reason, its that this mans pastor said, "its a mistake to marry someone because you are pregnant." Maybe so in some instances and maybe not in others. But to judge someone so young in this manner, knowing she has a less than wonderful home life just seems so un-Christ like. So many people have sex before they are married but because they don't get pregnant, they find it easy to pass judgment on those that do. We are not to judge anyway. That is just plain and simple.
Seems to me Christ preached about forgiving 7 times 7 times 7. And he was kind to Mary, who had less than a desirable reputation.
This poor young girl is doing the best she knows how. Wouldn't it be better to go to her wedding, open up a door to help her with all the future big decisions she will be making? Help her with this next generation rather than send her a letter saying, we cannot support you and as he said, " we have to draw the line somewhere". What line ? Who made the line ? Is he free from sin, that he can cast a stone ? I found myself almost hoping one of his sons gets a girl pregnant and then how will this man feel, well no, he may just draw such a line with his own son. So no I don't really wish that on him, but you know how we all have thoughts about people when they are unjust and judgmental.
Where is the love in this man and woman's heart for a young girl going through so much. Maybe they pray for her, but what about how she feels towards Christians as a whole now ?
I hate injustice. And I think this is so unjust. Unkind and so unloving. The worst part being that this man is so self righteous. Makes me want to be very careful on what I say about judgment, even about him. I am not trying to judge him and what he has said is just another sad turn of events. But sometimes unkindness is so blatant, it jumps out at you and its simply a fact. I won't stop talking to this man or be unkind to him and maybe I could thank him for what a lesson he has taught me that passing judgment on anyone should be for the Creator of the Universe and Him alone.
There I feel better getting this off my chest. I just hate to see people shunned for a mistake when none of us are free from sin.