Judging, Anger and Fear, all connected

I found this on line this afternoon and it really makes sense to me. Puts more light on my own moments of being judgmental. Much of the book, Healing Anger, says the same thing. Which I read several years ago for the first time when dealing with a very angry person.

"Being judgmental is being angry. Fear, the basis of anger, is always connected with the past or future. If you can look deeply within and find what it is that you fear, whether it is God, living up to some kind of ideal, fearing ideas different from yours, or people that are different from you, a different color, social status, or if you fear losing your house in these difficult economic times, or your partner to someone else, or your job, or your status, these are all fears that result in anger. An angry person is a fearful person, and a fearful person lives in the past and future. The problem with the past and future is that it is all fantasy, made up of nothing but thoughts and concepts. Only the moment is real; this is where courageous individuals live, and as a result, they do not fear - they act, which means they are living in the moment and see everyone and everything with new eyes every second, without judgment. What I just said may not register with a person who is in a present judgmental state of mind, simply because the person may be escaping their own problems by focusing on someone else whom they are judging. But because what has just been said is factual, it will act as a seed, and someday the judgmental person will be able to begin looking inside and figure out where their own problems begin, which is the only thing that will help them personally. We should all be concerned with anyone's apparent anger, because in time it will not only promote disease, but because if an angry person continues being angry, it can easily turn into hatred and get out of control. And someday that person might meet someone who is just as angry and fearful and hateful, perhaps on the highway (with road rage so prevalent), and then they, or someone else, may get hurt, or worse! This is how our many religious wars have begun. Isnt it time to find another way? Peace is so . . . loving! "

~E. Raymond Rock ~

Buddha said, "Believe nothing unless you can prove it true to yourself" sounds like wise advice to me.