The list makers win
I have removed all my posts that speak of my opinion about list making. Too many hateful comments. Too many people getting nasty. Too many people reading more into it than I ever intended. I dislike blogging at times like this. If people wish to take sides on such a silly issue and in the big scheme of things its a silly issue. People are suffering, people are hungry, children are being hurt and to have folks focus time and energy on such a subject is just not something I want to be part of, its just not worth it to me. I feel its better to let the list makers win.
Comments
For what it's worth, I just discovered your blog in the last two weeks...I loved the post about list making!!! I forwarded it to my best friend and husband. Don't let the list makers get you down...you have a kindred spirit in me(and I'm sure many others)!
Melissa
I wish I had posted a comment with something positive to outweigh all those negative comments
I think hateful e-mails should be made public...if someone needs to share their opinion in a hateful way they should not be cowards about it.
I thought it was a great post, a much-needed balance to the home management binder trend.
But I understand--there's no reason for anything on the internet to bleed over into your real life, especially when it makes you feel bad.
Keep sharing your common sense, Patty!
Patty, I don't understand why some of your readers are negative, but to understand that there is a constant struggle in the ego, and we are all human and therefore at war either for good or against it, as we perceive it.
I watched Oprah twice today, and although I don't agree with all that Tolle writes, I do agree with some and what he writes about the ego sure hits me square between the eyes. Ego on two sides of one issue don't seem to come to a good end.
So thanks for being encouraging.
Patty can be humble and gentle when she wants to. She is ALWAYS sincere when she writes. And again, with all due respect, your stylistic observation and criticism didn't seem all that constructive. The other blogs you mentioned are just that.....other peoples blogs....and they write theirs the way they want to. Give Patty that same courtesy.
I did not write this to offend anyone. I just feel that we all need to lighten up. It's Patty's blog!
I read your blog every day on a feed reader and I wanted to tell you that every single time I see a post from you, I feel so happy!
I love your positive perspective, your gentle thoughts and your frank writing. You inspire me to recognize and be truly grateful for the blessings that abound in my life. Thank you so much.
If I wrote a list of inspirers -- you'd be on it! :)
I'm sorry for the negative comments you have received and I regret that I waited 'til now to tell you how much I have appreciated your perspective. I have been visiting your blog since Meredith (Like Merchant's Ships) linked here. Your "list" posts seemed more about developing an intuitive approach to housekeeping (and living!), and not mere criticism of list-makers and keepers. They were a source of relief to me. I am a schedule-following flunkie... and my lists (when I do make them) are often misplaced or forgotten. But posts such as yours remind me that I can be a good wife, mother, homemaker, and demonstrate hospitality, etc... with or without the checklist!
Was it you who wrote something to the effect of how we so often try to live like we're managing a business? If so, I encourage you to please repost it! (Or perhaps you'd consider e-mailing those posts...?) There's much wisdom in that thought. When I find myself annoyed with my kiddos or frustrated because of a change in my plans, I now try to remind myself that life is not a business-system that can be perfectly, smoothly managed by following correct procedures. Of course there are things that need to be done, but as Jesus said to Martha,"...only one thing is needed and Mary has chosen that good thing..." May I be more like Mary than Martha.
I know you must act in accordance with your conscience and perhaps you are called to keep the peace in this case by removing those posts, but I do wish you would reconsider! Your thoughts are unique and that's refreshing!
Keep on writing your lovely, thoughtful posts!
that's why you call it your blog...so you can say what you want...and if someone doesn't agree with it they don't need to comment...I have never noticed any negative comments on your posts...they must do it by E-Mail, which I think is a pretty lame way to criticize someone...
I would encourage you to keep posting what your heart tells you to post...
I enjoy your blog very much
don't let the bad guys win...,
Mimi
I missed this particular post but I get the feeling it had to do with that blog I posted on my site. Honey, I think you've read a few of my thoughts so you know I shot straight from the hip.
If you start allowing people to influence whats on your heart and cause you to second guess yourself and your motives, life will be very uncomfortable for you.
You really have to take a look at teh type of person who takes anything said on these blogs as a personal attack and find every other word as an insult, you just pray for them to get a life and a thicker skin and move on.
Your blog is like your home. Would you allow someone (especially a stranger) to enter your home and tell you what you can and can not sayand do, how you should say or do a thing, what you should believe and how you should believe it? Heck no! I wont tolerate it. I'm not that democratic when it comes to my personal space, thoughts and beliefs.
Dont let nagger's, whiners, and contentious women (or men) determine how you feel about yourself or your blog.
Do your thing girl! :o)
Patty, have a wonderful blessed day. Walk across your new bridge several times for me!
I will just keep removing your comments
Patty, I feel so sad that people are doing this to you again, but I'm also sad that you are letting them do this to you. I know, that's much easier said from my perspective. I certainly agree with something that Debbie said. I don't know you but I think of you as a friend and I value the thoughts and opinions that you express here. They may not always be the way I look at things, but then I'm not one who expects everyone to have my point of view. But your blog is an important part of my day, and *you* are important to me. Please try to not let the whiners and complainers in life force you comply with their wishes by changing your posts.
You have many, many friends here in the blogworld. Friends who care a great deal, who value your thoughts and the time you spend sharing them with us, who value YOU. Don't let them win.
Love, Jackie
PS ... Is it not possible to block someone from posting? I don't know who this Chocokitty is, but perhaps there's a way you can stop them from bothering you.
But your posts resonated with me... I realised that I don't NEED to make lists. WOW! What a breakthrough!
I have to add that some people need to learn civility... as a guest on a blog, I try to never criticize, those that do, usually enjoy criticizing. In fact, that is what they DO. For fun. Imagine! How bored they must be :o
I only wish I had printed your blogs, because I really liked them!
BTW, I know of many blogs that are no comments by default, opening their comments ONLY for posts on which they wish them.
Your blog... your choice :)
~Rachel~
Anabella
So here's a vote in your favor! Sorry some folks got ugly about it.
They were really helpful to me and encouranged me to look at how I manage my house and list making. To branch out and learn to be flexible in some areas and see where I needed more help in newer areas.
I am sorry you received some not so kind responses.