Loss. . .

This is a difficult post for me to write. Today at the Doctors, they couldn't find a heartbeat for Melanie's tiny baby. She was 11 weeks along today. I saw my child devastated by grief and lost hopes. I felt my own loss and my own helplessness in trying to "make it all better" for my youngest daughter. Thoughts kept running through my mind of stories I had heard of miracles when a baby's heart beat could not be heard, then when they went to do a D&C, the baby's heart was beating strong, a miracle. I keep hoping for that sort of miracle, but know beyond a shadow of a doubt that God is in control. I know that things in this imperfect world of ours can just go wrong. I have miscarried, I know the pain, but seeing my own child so grief stricken breaks my heart beyond words. I saw her tears falling onto Mei-Lings back as she held her so close, so grateful for the blessing of that dear baby in her arms. Life is precious. I thought about the 19 year old that sat next to me in the waiting room, pregnant with #3, her oldest child 4 years old. She was complaining about being pregnant, said her children ruined her life. Yes, it seems unfair to me, but life isn't about what is and is not fair. Its about trusting that God will lead us through the dark, stormy nights and bring us into the dawn of hope. Please say a little prayer for Melanie and Casi. They are hurting so much right now.

Comments

Patricia said…
Patty, I am so very sorry for Melaine and Casi's loss.... May the Lord give you and your family strength and peace.

How sad for the children of that young girl... they deserve better.
Patricia
Kelley said…
Pat, I have all of you in my prayers right now...
I am so sorry for you all's loss.
Praying that you can feel God's love and peace during this difficult time.
Unknown said…
I am so very sorry for the loss of this baby that was already so loved and anticipated.
You will all be in my prayers for strength and understanding during this very difficult time.
GreenishLady said…
I am so sorry to hear that, and will send out a prayer for healing and strength for all of you.
Holly C. said…
I so sorry for your loss. They have been through so much.
dot said…
sorry to hear of the loss. I know to many young women take life for granted. I don't understand. My prayers for you and your family.
Anonymous said…
Ya'll have my deepest sympathy. I've been in your shoes, as a grandma and aunt to four angels in Heaven, I know that pain.

I will send up many prayers for everyone, including that young lady at the doctor's office...

Grace & Peace
The Stricklands said…
Sweet Patty,
Words can't ever express the depth of our sadness when we lose a child and a dream at the same time. We will be praying for a cloud of comfort to surround your family. How thankful I am that Melanie has your deep and unending love.
R. Aastrup said…
I am praying for comfort, strength and courage for Melanie and Casi as they work through this loss...and for you and Emery as well.
Thora said…
You are a wonderful mother.We are bonded forever with our children and when they hurt we do also.
Stay close and love.My prayers are with you
Deanna said…
Oh, I'm so very sorry to hear that. Y'all are in my thoughts and prayers.
nancyr said…
Oh, Patty, I am so sorry to hear the sad news about the baby. Melanie and Casi have had so much heartache, and don't deserve more.
I know you are hurting, too, but will be strong for them.
It is wonderful that you are such a close family.
Praying for your family.
Margo in Maine said…
We comfort others whereby we are comforted...I pray for the broken hearts that find it hard to understand and yet hold His hand. That His love will embrace Melanie and Casi in this difficult time....many words could be said but I know at this time they just need loving arms and a time to mourn...strength to you Patty...just enjoy your blog so much...Maine
Deborah said…
This is the first time I've visited your site. Melanie and Casi are so much in my thoughts and will continue to be in my prayers. I do believe that God leads us through the darkest of times and He is there with all of you now, just as that beautiful baby is with Him.
novascotiagal said…
So sorry that this has happened. The baby was so cherished already. My thoughts are with you and your family.
I will say a prayer for them right now. I am so sorry to hear of this news...but I will surely pray for you and your family.

God Bless Patty!
Oh dear Patty I am so sorry for all of you! And sorry too for the pregnant 19 year old and her children. That is the kind of thing that was so hard for me not being able to have children and suffering through so many miscarriages before getting very far along. I will keep you guys in my prayers.
tiffany said…
Heartfelt sympathy during this sad time.
Dana and Daisy said…
They will be in my deepest prayers. I am so sorry also for your loss. I also had a difficult day caring for my aunt who fell and broke her hip. There are so many difficulties and heartbreak in life for so many. Some people are confused why God allows things, others look to God for comfort. It is a mystery, but maybe we become more of what God wants of us as we go through these times.
Anonymous said…
I'm so so sorry. May your family find comfort in God and each other.
Christine said…
I am so sorry. You and yours are in my prayers.
slimjohnson said…
So very, very sorry to hear about your loss. God Bless.

Sharon
Cindi said…
Patty I will pray for them. I know the loss they are going through. We have four in heaven.
Bertie said…
Such sad news this morning, May God comfort & give you peace. I love the words to this hymn:

What e'er my God ordains is right;
Holy His will abideth.
I will be still what e'er He doth,
And follow where He leadeth.
He is my God, Though dark my road,
He holds me that I shall not fall;
And so to Him I leave it all.

What e'er my God ordains is right;
He never will deceive me.
He leads me by the proper path,
I know He will not leave me.
I take content, What He hath sent, His hand can turn my greifs away,
And patiently I wait His day.

What e'er my God ordains is right;
Though now this cup, in drinking,
May bitter seem to my faint heart,
I take it now unshrinking;
My God is true, Each morn anew
Sweet comfort yet shall fill my heart, And pain and sorrow shall depart.

What e'er my God ordains is right;
Here shall my stand be taken.
Though sorrow, need, or death be mine, Yet am I not forsaken;
My Father's care is round me there,
He holds me that I shall not fall;
And so to Him I leave it all.
Carole said…
Oh what sad news to read... I feel deeply for Melanie and Casi's loss, been there too... warmest hugs to all of you, and my prayers going your way, as well as the young mother's ; sometimes things CAN seem cruelly ironic and unfair.
LBP said…
Oh I am so sorry for your families loss! That is just hearkbreaking.

Please know that I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

Blessings
Linda
JacquiG said…
Oh Patty, how terribly sad for all of you. Melanie and Casi have been through such a lot for such young couple and my heart grieves for their loss. May G-d give them strength, and you and Emery as well.

As for the young girl in the doctor's office, those poor little innocent children. May G-d also watch over them and give them love.

Jackie
~Bren~ said…
Patty, my prayers are with you and your children. My heart feels your pain. May God touch Melanie's heart today with a comfort that only He can give.
mikesgirl said…
So very sorry to hear of your family's heartache. You will all be in my prayers.
Anonymous said…
I am so very, very sorry for your loss. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. This happened to me, also at 11 weeks, and I went on to have two healthy babies later on. I pray that Melanie and Casi hold Mei Ling close now, and know that the Lord will give your family peace and healing in time.
Jenny said…
What sad news Patty. Hold them all close.
Cat said…
So very sorry for Melanie's loss, as well as her husband and the rest of your family. Praying for her and you all.
Lucy said…
I'm so sorry to hear this. You are in my thougts
MiSScNeLLY said…
Sorry to hear about the loss. May God comfort your family at this time.
They are in my prayers and in my heart. We can only trust God to make all right. We can only rely on Him. I am so sorry for everyone, you too....This is a family sorrow.
Annie said…
Patty, I am so very sorry to hear this news, Melanie and Casi have been through so much and they are in our prayers.
May God be with you all,
Annie
Carrie J said…
I thought I had left a comment earlier but I must be mistaken. I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.
Janette said…
I am sorry for your loss. I will pray for your young family.
Mimi said…
I missed a few days blogging, and was not aware of your heartbreaking loss...I am so very sorry..we experienced the same stillbirth with our daughter at 22 weeks...and it was so very heartbreaking..I am praying for Melanie and Casi..as they gain strength form God to accept this loss in their lives...and for you as you morn the loss of a grandchild...
{{Hugs}}
Mimi
Anonymous said…
I am so sorry for your loss! I will be praying for your daughter.. such a hard thing to fight through!
TJ said…
My prayers are with your family!

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