Thursday, May 13, 2010

The Power of Peer Pressure


We so often think peer pressure is something children and young adults have to deal with and once you are older, you are past that problem, but I believe modern marketing and television shows are in their own ways producing that same sort of pressure. I keep seeing it over and over. Just recently had a conversation with a woman in her 50's who shared with me in a very casual manner how her own children influence her by their approval or disapproval. She wants to be up with the times in their eyes, fearing to appear outdated or old so she listens to music she really does not like and has gone so far as to decorate her kitchen to her daughters taste and not her own. I suspect this woman is not alone. Lots of middle agers seem to be better at doing things to seek approval than doing what they really want or what they believe in. Might be something as simple as words used or music listened to. Might be we are wearing clothes we don't even like but hate to appear old fashioned or not "hip" or whatever word they use now.
This kind of caving in to the peer pressure is what has gotten so many people into financial woe these days. We have to keep up with what we see others doing. We have closets the size of rooms and garages so full of things we don't use that there is no room for the car. We buy cars as a social statement rather than buying what we need or is affordable. We spend money on magazines that influence us to buy more and more. We have so many crafts that we have rooms that look like stores, We have pantries full of foods bought on a whim, that later end up being given away or collecting dust. We are pushed by peer pressure to be people we really are not.
Being pushed like that doesn't bring us to happiness, but leads us to be fake and discontent, always looking to find something beyond where and who we are.
What is it we tell the young people in regard to peer pressure.... stand tall and be yourself.

6 Comments:

Blogger Cathy said...

Oh Patty,
What an excellent post. I enjoy your blog SO very mucy. Thanks for sharing your heart with us.
Blessings,
Cathy

Thursday, May 13, 2010  
Blogger Cathy said...

Oh Patty,
What an excellent post. I enjoy your blog SO very mucy. Thanks for sharing your heart with us.
Blessings,
Cathy

Thursday, May 13, 2010  
Blogger Godyssey said...

I really enjoyed this post. I often thought that the older one became, the more naturally wise they became. However, when I reached my milestone 30th birthday and realized that I wasn't much wiser than the day before, I realized that wasn't the case.

Unfortunately, aging doesn't always guarantee wisdom. Older people are just as human and can be just as susceptible as everyone else.

Thursday, May 13, 2010  
Blogger Eileen said...

Oh, that way of 'not' aging gracefully is so prevalent where I live. I shop out of catalogues, basically.

Thursday, May 13, 2010  
Blogger Morning's Minion said...

i had hoped you were out and about by now!
Hmmm-those Wal Mart scooter things--I mentioned trying one the other day [I was tired] and J. said he just knew I'd run someone down. Probably so.

Thursday, May 13, 2010  
Blogger Mrs. G said...

I can identify with the woman in your post. I also feel that way sometimes and it is difficult to be yourself when your children are the complete opposite. My daughter, who was raised the same as my boys, is engaged to a young man who comes from a very influential family. She is someone who has changed so much over the past couple of years that I'm not even sure who she is anymore. That being said, she tends to leave us out of many instances in her life because we are just simple, country folk. I guess we embarrass her because we are what we are. I find myself, at times, trying to "fit in" with hers and the young man's family's ideals, Which I might add, go completely against the grain of who I am, just to steal a bit of time with my daughter. I honestly don't think she realizes that's what is happening but never the less it is.

Anyhow, that turned into somewhat of a tangent, and I apologize for that, however just wanted to say I do indeed know how this woman feels.

Grace & Peace

Friday, May 14, 2010  

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